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indeed possess the skill to unite authority with kind ness, or are capable of that steady and uniformly reasonable conduct, which alone can maintain true dignity, and command a willing and attentive obedience. Let us not forget, that human nature is the same in all stations. If you can convince your servants, that you have a generous and considerate regard to their health, their interest, and their reasonable gratifications;-that you impose no commands but what are fit and right, nor ever reprove but with justice and temper:-why should you imagine that they will be insensible to the good they receive; or whence suppose them incapable of esteeming and prizing such a mistress? I could ne ver, without indignation, hear it said, that "ser"vants have no gratitude;" as if the condition of servitude excluded the virtues of humanity! The truth is, masters and mistresses have seldom any real claim to gratitude: they think highly of what they bestow, and little of the service they receive; they consider only their own convenience, and seldom reflect on the kind of life their servants pass with them: they do not ask themselves, whether it is such an one as is consistent with the preservation of their health, their morals, their leisure for religious duties, or with a proper share of the enjoy ments and comforts of life. The dissipated manners which now so generally prevail, perpetual absence from home, and attendance on assemblies, or at public places, is, in all these respects, pernicious to the whole household,—and to the men servants absolutely ruinous. Their only resource, in the tedious hours of waiting, whilst their masters and ladies are engaged in diversions, is to find out something of the same kind for themselves. Thus they are led into gaming, drinking, extravagance, and bad company; and thus, by a natural progression, they become distrest and dishonest: that attachment and affiance, which ought to subsist between the dependent and his protector are destroyed: the . master looks on his attendants as thieves and trai whilst they consider him as one whose money

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only gives him power over them, and, who uses that power without the least regard to their welfare.

"The fool saith, I have no friends; I have "no thanks for all my good deeds, and they that "eat my bread, speak evil of me." Thus foolishly do those complain who choose their servants, as well as their friends, without discretion; or who treat them in a manner that no worthy person will bear.

I have been often shocked at the want of politeness, by which masters and mistresses sometimes provoke impertinence from their servants: a gentleman, who would resent to death an imputation of falsehood, from his equal, will not scruple without proof, to accuse his servant of it in the grossest terms. I have heard the most insolent contempt of the whole class expressed at a table, whilst five or six of them attended behind the chairs, who, the company seemed to think, were without senses, without understanding, or the natural feelings of resentment. These are cruel injuries, and will be retorted in some way or other.

If you, my dear, live to be at the head of a family, I hope you will not only avoid all injurious treatment of your domestics, but behave to them with that courtesy and good-breeding, which will heighten their respect as well as their affection.If, on any occasion, they do more than you have a right to require, give them, at least, the reward of seeing that they have obliged you. If, in your service, they have any hardship to endure; let them see that you are concerned for the necessity of imposing it. When they are sick, give them all tho attention and every comfort in your power, with a free heart, and kind countenance; "not blemish. ing thy good deeds; not using uncomfortable words, when thou givest any thing. Is not a "word better than a gift?—but both are with a

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ON ECONOMY.

"gracious man. A fool will upbraid churlishly: "and a gift of the envious consumeth the eyes." Whilst you thus endear yourself to all your servants, you must ever carefully avoid making a favourite of any; unjust distinctions, and weak indulgencies to one, will of course excite envy and hatred in the rest. Your favourite may establish whatever abuses she pleases; none will dare to complain against her; and you will be kept ignorant of her ill practices, but will feel the effects of them, by finding all your other servants uneasy in their places, and, perhaps, by being obliged continually to change them. When they have spent a reasonable time in your service, and have behaved commendably, you ought to prefer them, if it is in your power, or to recommend them to a better provision: the hope of this keeps alive attention and gratitude, and is the proper support of industry. Like a parent, you should keep in view their establishment in some way, that may preserve their old age from indigence; and to this end, you should endeavour to inspire them with care to lay up part of their gains, and constantly discourage in them all vauity in dress, and extravagance in idle

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That you are bound to promote their eternal as well as temporal welfare, you cannot doubt; since, next to your children, they are your nearest dependents. You ought, therefore, to instruct them as far as you are able, furnish them with good books, suited to their capacity, and see that they attend the public worship of God: and you must take care so to pass the Sabbath-day as to allow them time, on that day, at least, for reading and reflection at home, as well as for attendance at church-Though this is part of your religious duty, I mention it here, because it is also a part of family management: for the same reason, I shall here take occasion earnestly to recommend family prayers, which are useful to all, but more parti cularly to servants; who, being.constantly employed, are led to the neglect of private prayer;

and whose ignorance makes it very difficult for them to frame devotions for themselves, or to choose proper helps, amidst the numerous books of superstitious or enthusiastic nonsense, which are printed for that purpose. Even in a political light, this practice is eligible; since the idea which it will give them of your regularity and decency, if not counteracted by other parts of your conduct, will probably increase their respect for you, and will be some restraint at least on their outward behaviour, though it should fail of that influence, which in general may be hoped from it.

The prudent distribution of your charitable gifts may not improperly be considered as a branch of Economy; since the great duty of almsgiving cannot be truly fulfilled without a diligent attention so to manage the sums you can spare, as to produce the most real good to your fellow-creatures. Many are willing to give money, who will not bestow their time and consideration, and who therefore often hurt the community, when they mean to do good to individuals. The larger are your funds, the stronger is the call upon you to exert your industry and care in disposing of them properly. It seems impossible to give rules for this, as every case is attended with a variety of circumstances, which must all be considered. In general, charity is most useful, when it is appropriated to animate the industry of the young, to procure some ease and comforts to old age, and to support, in sickness, those whose daily labor is their only maintenance in health. They who are fallen into indigence, froma circumstances of ease and plenty, and in whom education and habit have added a thousand wants to those of nature, must be considered with the tenderest sympathy by every feeling heart. It is needless to say that, to such, the bare support of existence is scarcely a benefit; and that the delicacy and liberality of the manner in which relief is hère offered, can alone make it a real act of kindness.In great families, the waste of provisions sufficient for the support of many poor ones, is a shocking

abuse of the gifts of Providence: nor should any lady think it beneath her to study the best means of preventing it, and of employing the refuse of luxury in the relief of the poor. Even the smallest families may give some assistance in this way, if care is taken that nothing be wasted.

I am sensible, my dear child, that very little more can be gathered from what I have said on Economy, than the general importance of it; which cannot he too much impressed on your mind, since the natural turn of young people is to neglect and even to despise it; not distinguishing it from par simony and narrowness of spirit. But be assured, my dear, there can be no true generosity without it; and that the most enlarged and liberal mind will find itself not debased but ennobled by it. Nothing is more common than to see the same person, whose want of Economy is ruining his family, consumed with regret and vexation at the effect of his profusion; and, by endeavouring to save, in such trifles as will not amount to twenty pounds in a year, that which he wastes by hundreds, incur the character and suffer the anxieties of a miser, to gether with the misfortunes of a prodigal. A rational plan of expence will save you from all these corroding cares, and will give you the full and li beral enjoyment of what you spend. An air of ease, of hospitality, and frankness, will reign in your house, which will make it pleasant to your friends and to yourself. Better is a morsel of "bread," where this is found, than the most elahorate entertainment, with that air of constraint and anxiety, which often betrays the grudging heart through all the disguises of civility.

That you, my dear, may unite in yourself the admirable virtues of Generosity and Economy, which will be the grace and crown of all your attainments, is the earnest wish of

Your ever affectionate.

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