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from our nearest friend; for we have no right to dispose of the secrets of others.

If there is danger in making an improper choice of friends, my dear child, how much more fatal would it be to mistake in a stronger kind of attach ment,-in that which leads to an irrevocable engagement for life! yet so much more is the under standing blinded, when once the fancy is captivated, that it seems a desperate undertaking, to convince a: girl in love that she has mistaken the character of the man she prefers.

If the passions would wait for the decision of judgment, and if a young woman could have the same opportunities of examining into the real character of her lover, as into that of a female candidate for her friendship, the same rules might direct you in the choice of both, for, marriage being the highest state of friendship, the qualities requisite in a friend are still more important in a husband. But young women know so little of the world, especially of the other sex, and such pains are usually taken to deceive them, that they are every way unqualified to choose for themselves, upon their own judgment. Many a heart-ache shall I feel for you, my sweet girl, if I live a few years longer! Since, not only all your happiness in this world, but your advancement in religion and virtue, or your apostacy from every good principle you have been taught, will probably depend on the com. panion you fix to for life. Happy will it be for you, if you are wise and modest enough to withdraw from temptation, and preserve your heart free and open to receive the just recommendation of your parents: farther than a recommendation, I dare say, they will never go, in an affair which, though it should be begun by them, ought never to be proceeded in without your free concurrence.

Whatever toniantic notions you may hear or read of, depend upon it, those matches are the happiest which are made, on rational grounds;-on suitableness of character, degree, and fortune,-on mutual esteem, and the prospect of a real and permanent

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friendship. Far be it from me to advise you to marry where you do not love;—a mercenary narriage is a detestable prostitution: But, on the other hand, an union formed upon mere personal liking, without the requisite foundation of esteem, without the sanction of parental approbation, and, conse quently, without the blessing of God, can be productive of nothing but misery and shame. The passion, to which every consideration of duty and pru dence is sacrificed, instead of supplying the loss of all other advantages, will soon itself be changed into mutual distrust,-repentance, reproaches,-and finally, perhaps, into hatred. The distresses it brings, will be void of every consolation; you will have disgusted the friends who should be your sup. port,-debased yourself in the eyes of the world,and, what is much worse, in your own eyes, and even in those of your husband: above all, you will have offended that God, who alone can shield you from calamity.

From an act like this, I trust, your duty and gratitude to your kind parents,-the first of duties next to that we owe to God, and inseparably connected with it,-will effectually preserve you. But most young people think they have fulfilled their duty, if they refrain from actually marrying against prohibition: They suffer their affections, and even, perhaps, their word of honour, to be engaged, without consulting their parents; yet satisfy them. selves with resolving not to marry without their consent: not considering that, beside the wretched, useless, uncomfortable state they plunge themselves into, when they contract an hopeless engagement, they must, likewise, involve a parent in the misė. rable dilemma of either giving a forced consent against his judgment, or of seeing his beloved child pine away her prime of life in fruitless anxiety; seeing her accuse him of tyranny, because he restrains her from certain ruin;—seeing her affections alienated from her family; and all her thoughts engrossed by one object, to the destruction of her health and spirits, and of all improvements and oc

cupations. What a cruel alternative for parents, whose happiness is bound up with that of their child! The time to consult them is before you have given a lover the least encouragement; nor ought you to listen a moment to the man who would wish you to keep his addresses secret; since he thereby shews himself conscious that they are not fit to be encouraged.

But perhaps I have said enough on this subject at present; though, if ever advice on such a topic can be of use, it must be before passion has got possession of the heart, and silenced both reason and principle. Fix, therefore, in your mind, as deeply as possible, those rules of duty and prudence, which now seem reasonable to you, that they may be at hand in the hour of trial, and save you from the miseries, in which strong affections, unguided by discretion, involve so many of our sex.

If you love virtue sincerely, you will be incapable of loving an openly vicious character. But alas! your innocent heart may be easily ensnared by an artful one; and from this danger, nothing can secure you but the experience of those to whose guidance God has entrusted you: may you be wise enough to make use of it! So will you have the fairest chance of attaining the best blessings this world can afford, in a faithful and virtuous union with a worthy man, who may direct your steps in safety and honour through this life, and partake with you the rewards of virtue in that whieh is to come. But, if this happy lot should be denied you, do not be afraid of a single life. A worthy woman is never destitute of valuable friends, who, in a great measure, supply to her the want of nearer connections. She can never be slighted or disesteemed, while her good temper and benevolence render her a blessing to her companions. Nay, she must be honoured by all persons of sense and vir tue, for preferring the single state to an union unworthy of her. The calamities of au unhan marriage are so much greater than can befall a single person, that the unmarried woman may find

abundant argument to be contented with her condition, when pointed out to her by Providence. Whether married or single, if your first care is to please God, you will undoubtedly be a blessed creature;" for that which he delights in, must be happy." How earnestly I wish you this happiness, you can never know, unless you could read the heart of

Your truly affectionate.

LETTER VI.

ON THE GOVERNMENT OF THE TEMPER.

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ture happiness, my dear, is what your parents have, doubtless, been continually attentive to from your infancy, as it is impossible to undertake it too early; I mean the due Regulation of your Temper. Though you are in a great measure indebted to their forming hands for whatever is good in it, you are sensible, no doubt, as every human creature is, of propensities to some infirmity of temper, which it must now be your own care to correct and to subdue; otherwise the pains that have hitherto been taken with you may all become fruitless: and, when you are your own mistress, you may relapse into those faults, which were originally in your nature, and which will require to be diligently watched and kept under, through the whole course of your life.

If you consider, that the constant tenor of the Gospel precepts is to promote love, péácé, and goodwill amongst mcn, you will not doubt that the

cultivation of an amiable disposition is a great part of your religious duty: since nothing leads more directly to the breach of charity, and to the injury and molestation of our fellow-creatures, than the indulgence of an ill-temper. Do not, therefore, think lightly of the offences you may commit, for want of a due command over it, or suppose yourself responsible for them to your fellow-creatures only; but, be assured, you must give a strict account of them all to the Supreme Governor of the world, who has made this a great part of your appointed trial upon earth.

A woman, bred up in a religious manner, placed above the reach of want, and out of the way of sordid or scandalous vices, can have but few temptations to the flagrant breach of the Divine laws. It particularly concerns her, therefore, to understand them in their full import, and to consider, how far she trespasses against them, by such actions as ap. pear trivial, when compared with murder, adultery, and theft; but which become of very great importance, by being frequently repeated, and occurring in the daily transactions of life.

The principal virtues or vices of a woman must be of a private and domestic kind. Within the circle of her own family and dependents lies her sphere of action;-the scene of almost all those tasks and trials, which must determine her character, and her fate, here and hereafter. Reflect, for a moment, how much the happiness of her husband, children, and servants, must depend on her temper; and you will see that the greatest good, or evil, which she ever may have in her power to do, may arise from her correcting or indulging its infirmities.

Though I wish the principle of duty towards God to be your ruling motive in the exercise of every virtue; yet, as human nature stands in need of all possible helps, let us not forget how essential it is to present happiness, and to the enjoyment of this life, to cultivate such a temper as is likewise indispensably requisite to the attainment of higher

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