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which they are most interested. If a gentleman tend an attachment to any of you, and endeaar to shake your religious priuciples, be assured is either a fool, or has designs on you which he es not openly avow. ou will probably wonder at my having educa.
you in a church different from my own. The son was plainly this: I looked on the differences veen our churches to be of no real importance, that a preference of one to the other was a € matter of taste. Your mother was educated he church of England, and had an attachment t; and I had a prejudice in favour of every g she liked. It never was her desire that you ald be baptized by a clergyman of the church of talid, or be educated in that church : on the rary, the delicacy of her regard to the sinallest omstance that could affect me in the eye of the
d, made her anxiously insist it might be other- But I could not yield to her in that kind of rosity.-When I lost her, I became still more mined to educate you in that church, as I feel ret pleasure in doing every thing that appears
e to express my affection and veneration for hemory-I draw but a very faint and imperpicture of what your mother was, while I enpur to point out what you should be*.
ONE of the chief be
is that modest res
When a girl ceases
This modesty, which It
e reader will remember, that such observations as t equally both tbe sexes, are all along as much as e avoided.
in the countenance shews an observing eye.
I should be glad that yo your behaviour at public fident ease, that unabasi seems to set the company gentleman is speaking to addresses you, do not let
CONDUCT AND BEHAVIOUR.
O NE of the chief beauties in a female character,
is that modest reserce, that retiring delicacy, which avoids the public eye, and is disconcerted even at the gaze of admiration. I do not wish you to be insensible to applause; if you were, you inust become, if not worse, at least iess amiable women, But you may be dazzled by that adiniration, which yet rejoices your hearts.
When a girl ceases to blush, she has lost the most powerful charm of beauty. That extreme. sensibility which it indicates, may be a weakness and incumbrance in our sex, as I have too often felt; but in yours it is peculiarly engaging. Pedants, who think themselves philosophers, ask, why a woman should blush when she is conscions of no crime? It is a sufficient answer, that Nature has made you to blush wlien you are guilty of uo fault, and has forced us to love you because you do so Blushing is so far from being necessarily an atten. dant on guilt, that it is the usual companion of ivnocence.
This modesty, which I think so essential in your sex, will naturally dispose you to be rather silent in company, especially in a large one.-People of sense and discernment will never mistake such si lence for dulness. One may take a share in conversation without uttering a syllable. The expression in the countenance shews it; and this never escapes an observing eye.
I should be glad that you had an easy dignity in your behaviour at public places; but not that confident ease, that unabashed countenance, which seems to set the company at defiance.--If, while a gentleman is speaking to you, one of superior rank addresses you, do not let your eager attention and
ble preference betray the futter of your heart. · your pride on this occasion preserve you from t meanuess into which your vanity would sink 1. Consider, that you expose yourselves to tha cule of the company, and affrontone gentleman, y to swell the triumph of another, who perlaps 2ks he does you honour in speaking to you. Jonverse with men even of the first rank with I dignified modesty which may prevent the apach of the most distant familiarity, and conse Dily prevent them from feeling themselves your eriors. Vit is the most dangerous talent you can pos. iit must be guarded with great discretion and d-nalure, otherwise it will create you may mies. Wit is perfectly consistent with softness
delicacy; yet they are seldom found united, is so flattering to vanity, that they who possess become intoxicated, and lose all self-command. Tumour is a different quality. It will make 1 company much solicited: but be cautious bow indulge it. It is often a great enemy to deli. , and a still greater one to dignity of character. ay sometimes gain you applause, but will never ure you respect. - even cautious in displaying your good sense.
Il be thought you assume a superiority over rest of tlie company.-- But if you happen to any learning, keep it a profound secret, espe.
from the men, who generally look with a jea. ud malignant eye on a woman of great parts cultivated understanding an of real genius and candour is far supethis meanness : But such a one will seldom your way; and if by accident he should, be anxious to shew the full extent of your ge. If he has any opportunities of seeing will soon discover it himself: and if you y advantages of person or manner, and ur own secret, he will probably give you or a great deal more than you possess.-( art of pleasing in conversation, consists
to making the compa
Beware of detractic
Shew a compassionate
Consider every species
it, if she sees gives it a y
it without pain and conte
You will be reproached,
to making the company pleased with themselves. You will more readily hear them talk yourselves into their good graces.
Beware of detraction, especially where your own sex are concerned: you are generally accused of being particularly addicted to this vice;-I think unjustly: men are fully as guilty of it when their interests interfese.- As your interests more frequently clash, and as your feelings are quicker than ours, your temptations to it are more frequent. For this reason, be particularly tender of the reputation of your own sex, especially when they happen to rival you in our regards. We look on this as the strongest proof of dignity and trua greatness of mind.
Shew a compassionate sympatlıy to unfortunate women, especially to those who are rendered so by :: the villany of men. Indulge a secret pleasure, I may say pride, in being the friends and refuge of the unhappy, but without the vanity of slieving it.
Consider every species of indelicacy in conversation, as shameful in itself, and as highly disgust. ing to us. All double-entendre is of this sort.-The dissoluteness of men's cducation allows them to be diverted with a kind of wit, which yet they have delicacy enough to be shocked at, when it comes from your mouths, or even when you lear
that delicate nature, that it cannot hear certain things without contamination. It is always in your power to avoid these. No man, but a brute, or a fool, will insult a woman with conversation which he sees gives her pain, nor will he dare to do it, if she resent the injury with a becoming spirit.
There is a diguity in conscious virtue, which is able to awe the most shameless and abandoned of men.
You will be reproached, perhaps, with prudery.
By prudery is generally meantan affectation of delicacy. Now I do not wish you to afect delicacy; I wish you to possess it. At any rate, it is better
· run the risk of being thought ridiculous, than isgusting.
The men will complain of your reserve. They ill assure you, that a more frank behaviour would ake you more amiable. But, trust me, they are ot sincere when they tell you so.-I acknowledge, lat oa some occasions it might render you more greeable as companions, but it would make you ss amiable as women: An important distinction, hich many of your sex are not aware of.-After 1, 1 is you to have great ease and openness in ur conversation. I only point out some considetions which ought to regulate your behaviour in at respect. Have a sacred regard to truth. Lying is a mean d despicable vice. I have known some women of cellent parts, who were so much addicted to it, at they could not be trusted in the relation of any pry; especially if it contained any thing of the arvellous, or if they themselves were the heroines the tale. This weakness did not proceed from ad heart, but was merely the effect of vanity or unbridled iinagination. I do not mean to cene that lively embellishment of a humorous story, ich is only intended to promote innocent mirth. Jiere is a certaia gentleness of spirit and man.
extremely engaging in your sex;--not that criminate attention, tha: unmeaning simper,
smiles on all alike. This arises, either from fectation of softness, or from perfect insipi
and respect forme
A fine woman, like
shall regain their ascend
The power of a fine w
There is a bative clignil
re is a species of refinement in luxury, just ing to prevail among the gentlemen of this y, to which our ladies are yet as great stran. 5 any women upon earth: I hope, for the of the sex, they may ever continue so:lie luxury of eating. It is a despicable ice in men; but in your ser it is beyond a indelicate and disgusting. one who remembers a few years back, is of a very striking change in the attention