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it were forgotten, who many times nevertheless prove the best.
The illiberality of Parents in allowance towards their Children, is an harmful error, makes them base, acquaints them with shifts, makes them sort with mean company, and makes them surfeit more when they come to plenty: and therefore the proof is best, when men keep their authority towards their Children, but not their purse. Men have a foolish manner (both Parents, and school-masters, and servants) in creating and breeding an emulation between brothers, during childhood, which many times sorteth to discord when they are men, and disturbeth families. The Italians make little difference between Children and nephews, or near kinsfolks ; but so they be of the lump, they care not, though they pass not through their own body. And, to say truth, in nature it is much a like matter, insomuch that we see a nephew sometimes resembleth an uncle, or a kinsman, more than his own Parent, as the blood happens. Let Parents choose betimes the vocations and courses they mean their Children should take, for then they are most flexible; and let them not too much apply themselves to the disposition of their Children, as thinking they will take best to that which they have most mind to. It is true, that if the affection or aptness of the Children be extraordinary, then it is good not to cross it: but generally the precept
good, “ Choose that which is best; habit will soon make it pleasant and easy:" younger brothers are commonly fortunate, but seldom or never where the elder are disinherited.
Of Marriage and Single Life. He that hath Wife and Children, hath given hostages to fortune; for they are impediments to great enterprises, either of virtue or mischief. Certainly the best works, and of greatest merit for the public, have proceeded from the unmarried or childless men, which both in affection and means have married and endowed the public. Yet it were great reason, that those that have Children, should have greatest care of future times, unto which they know they must transmit their dearest pledges. Some there are, who, though they lead a Single Life, yet their thoughts do end with themselves, and account future times impertinences. Nay, there are some other, that account wife and children but as bills of charges. Nay, more, there are some foolish rich covetous men, that take pride in having no children, because they may be thought so much the richer. For perhaps they have heard some talk, “ Such an one is a great rich man;" and another except to it, “ Yea, but he hath a great charge of children;" as if it were an abatement to his riches. But the most ordinary cause of a Single Life is liberty, especially in certain self-pleasing and humorous minds, which are so sensible of every restraint, as they will go near to think their girdles and garters to be bonds and shackles. Unmarried men are best friends, best masters, best servants, but not always best subjects; for they are light to run away, and almost all fugitives are of that condition. A Single Life doth well for church-men: for charity will hardly water the ground, where it must first fill a pool. It is indifferent for judges and magistrates ; for if they be facile and corrupt, you
shall have a servant five times worse than a wife. For soldiers, I find the generals commonly in their hortatives put men in mind of their wives and children. And I think the despising of Marriage amongst the Turks, making the vulgar soldier more base. Certainly wife and children are a kind of discipline of humanity: and single men, though they be many times more charitable, because their means are less exhaust; yet on the other side, they are more cruel and hard-hearted, (good to make severe inquisitors) because their tenderness is not so oft called upon. Grave natures, led by custom, and therefore constant, are commonly loving husbands; as was said of Ulysses,
“ He preferred his old wife to immortality." Chaste women are often proud and froward, as presuming upon the merit of their chastity. It
is one of the best bonds both of chastity and obedience in the wife, if she thinks her husband wise, which she will never do, if she find him jealous. Wives are young men's mistresses, companions for middle
and old men's nurses; so as a man may have a quarrel to marry when he will. But yet he was reputed one of the wise men, that made answer to the question --when a man should marry? “ A young man not yet, an elder man not at all.” It is often seen, that bad husbands have very good wives; whether it be, that it raiseth the price of their husbands' kindness when it comes, or that the wives take a pride in their patience. But this never fails, if the bad husbands were of their own choosing, against their friends' consent; for then they will be sure to make good their own folly.
Of Envy. THERE be none of the affections, which have been noted to fascinate or bewitch, but Love and Envy. They both have vehement wishes, they frame themselves readily into imaginations and suggestions; and they come easily into the eye, especially upon the presence of the objects, which are the points that conduce to fascination, if any such thing there be. We see likewise the Scripture calleth Envy an evil eye; and the astrologers call the evil influences of the stars, evil aspects : so that still there seemeth to be acknowledged in the act of Envy, an ejaculation or irradiation of the eye. Nay, some have been so curious as to note, that the times when the stroke or percussion of an envious eye doth most hurt, are, when the party envied is beheld in glory or triumph; for that sets an edge upon Envy: and besides, at such times the spirits of the person envied do come forth most into the outward parts, and so meet the blow.
But leaving these curiosities, (though not unworthy to be thought on in fit place,) we will handle, what persons are apt to Envy others, what persons are most subject to be Envied themselves, and what is the difference between public and private Envy.
A man that hath no virtue in himself, ever envieth virtue in others. For men's minds will either feed upon their own good, or upon others' evil; and who wanteth the one, will prey upon the other; and who so is out of hope to attain to another's virtue, will seek to come at even hand by depressing another's fortune.
A man that is busy and inquisitive, is commonly envious : for to know much of other men's matters cannot be, because all that ado may concern his estate ; therefore it must needs be, that he taketh a kind of play-pleasure in looking upon the fortunes of others; neither can he that mindeth but his own