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the thing looks like an ape trying to be dignified. Kind words usually fit. Frederick Douglass said that Abraham Lincoln was the only great man with whom he talked who did not remind him that his skin was black. Tact! Infinite tact!

« Politeness is to do and say

The kindest thing in the kindest way."

In the few lines which follow I desire to warn you against certain evil tendencies in conversation : careless words, discouraging words, boastful words, words of disloyalty, and words which are bitter, cutting and sarcastic.

1.-Let me warn you against careless words. Lord Byron, when a youth, heard a certain Miss Chaworth drop a remark which could have no reference except to himself. He was intensely interested in the young woman-and these were the words which he accidentally heard: “Do you think I could marry that lame boy ?” The words possessed a double sting; they were spoken without necessity and they were addressed to a servant. She need not have said it even if she thought it, but she said it and said it to one who, in the very nature of the case, was unworthy of her confidence. How cruel some people are. Count Tolstoy was a homely boy. His neighbours and friends laughed at his homeliness, but he wept over it in secret.

11.-1 warn you against proud, lofty and boastful words. Pompey, the great Roman general, ex

claimed: “I have only to stamp my foot and all Italy will leap to arms!” By and by, when public enthusiasm had cooled somewhat, his enemies sneeringly remarked: “Pompey, now is the time to stamp your foot !” Adelaide, the proud daughter of the Duke of Savoy, used to say : “They will have to reckon with me when I become queen!" But, sad to relate, she never became queen. Fulfill your own prophecies and never proclaim them until they are fulfilled.

111.-1 warn you against words of disloyalty. Young man, don't be disloyal to the commercial concern which employs you.

Elbert Hubbard puts it straight when he says: “If you work for a man, in heaven's name, work for him. Stand by the institution which he represents. If you must vilify, condemn and eternally discourage-why, then, act like a man and resign.” A merchant prince in a neighbouring city was called upon by a poor fellow out of work—"wife sick" and "children hungry," and so on. The merchant turned to the head of a department standing near by and said : "Give this man something to do.” The department manager demurred, saying, “We have not the slightest need for anybody and our department pay sheet is overloaded now." But the merchant became impatient: The man is poor, his wife is sick, his children are hungry, he can't find work-make room for himput him in somewhere.” So they placed him in a corner to sweep, dust and pack, at ten dollars a week. Result? Inside of a month he was charge

ing his employer with “injustice.” What was ten dollars a week for a man with a wife and four children ?-Of course.

IV.-1 warn you against the use of cutting, bitter and sarcastic words. Voltaire said concerning Frederick the Great: “He caressed me with one hand while he tore my flesh with the other." The wife of Samuel Johnson, the English philosopher, seated at the table one day, turned and, looking into the face of her famous husband just at the moment when he was about to “ask a blessing,” remarked : “My dear, don't go through the mockery of asking a blessing or thanking God for His bounties when, in less than a minute, you will be criticizing and condemning every article of food on the table.” I have known many a home to be blasted and broken by virtuous people who were guilty of saying cutting things. They were fond of sprinkling salt on fresh wounds and used vitriol as a steady article of table diet. The troubles of the day were served up like an extra salad at every meal and every modest request for "peace” touched off with a social thunderbolt.

V.-1 warn you against the use of discouraging words. In a certain hospital, of which I have read, there is to be seen a sign bearing these words : Do not utter one discouraging word—and yet that is the crime we are all guilty of. We discourage when we ought to inspire. We create an atmosphere and ask others to breathe it. We fondle our annoyances and hug our disappointments and invite the world to have partnership in our gloom. And the discouraging folks are often the very people who have the most to encourage them. Michael Angelo owed too much to nature and to God to utter such words as these : “ It would have been better for me if I had spent my life making brushes instead of cutting marble and painting domes.”

But why inflict your miserable moods on others ? A friend said to Crab Robinson when he was visiting Paris : “I will call for you to-morrow morning.” Crab Robinson answered: "I would rather you did not call; you seem to dislike everything you see and hear—nothing pleases you—nothing suits you—nothing satisfies you; you rob me of my peace, my poetry, my dream. I would rather see Paris alone." Frank answer that! What the world needs is a song; sighs are at a discount. They are building a monument "way down in Kentucky” to Stephen Collins Foster, who wrote: “Swanee River," "Old Black

“ Joe” and “My Old Kentucky Home Far Away." Somebody bid $3,000 the other day for the table on which Robert Burns wrote: "Should Old Acquaintance Be Forgot.” Give us a song! A song, if you please!

There is one man whom I hold in contempt: The man who profanes his mother-tongue and pollutes the social atmosphere in which he moves. His intellectual resources are so scant that he must swear. Ignorant, shallow, superficial and bereft of ideas, he stains with oaths and cursings the finest language ever spoken. Said John Brown, whose "soul is

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marching on": "If there is no God, swearing is exceedingly foolish; and if there is a God, it is moral insanity." "

“Young man,” said the proprietor of a village hotel to a youth who was carelessly calling on God and the devil to certify to the truthfulness of certain remarks of an indifferent character which he was belching forth without restraint or restriction: “Young man, I will give you ten dollars if you will go into yonder graveyard, alone, at midnight and utter the same oaths." The offer was not accepted. When a man “swears,” he has tagged himself. He is ignorant, uninformed, mentally weak, morally wrong, religiously stupid, socially cheap, and generally low-born or ill-bred. Not being able to reason, think, analyze, express, vocalize and articulate in a decent fashion-he swears. Heaven pity such !

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