Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and HappinessBased on scientific research, this groundbreaking study from the frontiers of psychology and medicine offers startling new insight into the healing powers and medical benefits of forgiveness. Through vivid examples (including his work with victims from both sides of Northern Ireland’s civil war), Dr. Fred Luskin offers a proven nine-step forgiveness method that makes it possible to move beyond being a victim to a life of improved health and contentment. |
Contents
Renting Too Much Space to Disappointment | 3 |
Taking Things Too Personally | 12 |
The Blame Game | 21 |
The Grievance Story | 33 |
Rules Rules Rules | 46 |
Forgiveness | 61 |
That Is the Question | 63 |
The Science of Forgiveness | 77 |
Changing the Channel Breath of Thanks Heart Focus and PERT | 105 |
From Unenforceable Rules to Wishes and Hopes | 123 |
Your Positive Intention | 137 |
The HEAL Method | 154 |
Soothing the Hurt | 167 |
The Four Stages of Becoming a Forgiving Person | 178 |
Forgive Yourself | 193 |
Above and Beyond | 208 |
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Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness Frederic Luskin No preview available - 2001 |
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Page 78 - THE SEVEN DEADLY SINS, anger is possibly the most fun. To lick your wounds, to smack your lips over grievances long past, to roll over your tongue the prospect of bitter confrontations still to come, to savor to the last toothsome morsel...
Page 95 - If you do not wish to be prone to anger, do not feed the habit; give it nothing which may tend to its increase. At first, keep quiet and count the days when you were not angry : " I used to be angry every day, then every other day: next every two, next every three days ! " and if you succeed in passing thirty days, sacrifice to the Gods in thanksgiving.
Page 157 - That he that cannot forgive others breaks the bridge over which he must pass himself, for every man hath need to be forgiven.
Page 124 - If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.
Page 22 - For what purpose?" you may say, Why, that you may become an Olympic conqueror; but it is not accomplished without sweat. In my opinion no man has had a more profitable difficulty than you have had, if you choose to make use of it as an athlete would deal with a young antagonist.
Page 166 - You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you just might find, you get what you need.
Page 34 - The attitude of unhappiness is not only painful, it is mean and ugly. What can be more base and unworthy than the pining, puling, mumping mood, no matter by what outward ills it may have been engendered? What is more injurious to others? What less helpful as a way out of the difficulty? It but fastens and perpetuates the trouble which occasioned it, and increases the total evil of the situation. At all costs, then, we ought to reduce the sway of that mood; we ought to scout it in ourselves and others,...
Page 94 - Depression as an antecedent to heart disease among women and men in the NHANES I study.
Page 64 - Ah ne'er so dire a thirst of glory boast, Nor in the critic let the man be lost. Good nature and good sense must ever join; To err is human, to forgive, divine.